Shaadi Ke Laddoo: He Proposed A Marriage Of Convenience; Didn't Want To Leave His Live-In Partner Back In The US

This special series is for every desi kid who has experienced the circus of meeting one rishta (proposal of marriage) after another, arranged by family members, only to end up disappointed, and perhaps, amused. This week, it's about getting proposed for a marriage convenience.
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The day I turned 30, alarm bells started ringing for my parents. Rishtedaars (relatives) wouldn't leave them alone, and even the neighbours would ask about my marriage. It reached a point where someone managed to get hold of my number and messaged me, proposing marriage just because I was 30. They even said, "If not now, then when?" To this day, I don't know where this anonymous person got my number from!
Now, if strangers were panicking, you can imagine the state of my parents. I was meeting one guy after another, all arranged by my parents. One time, we even flew from Delhi to Lucknow to meet a potential match. He was a 36-year-old man living in Indianapolis, USA. I resented having to go to Lucknow. I mean, why couldn't he have flown to Delhi? He was in India for a month and claimed he didn't have time to fly around.
I'm an educated woman with a good job, and letting the boy call the shots hurt my pride. Our families decided to meet at a restaurant in Hazratganj, Lucknow's liveliest shopping hub. I decked up in ethnic wear and went ahead with the plans. We reached much earlier than the appointed time and waited for them. Finally, the boy and his family arrived. Honestly, I was so tired of the whole process that I didn't even care that he wasn't my type at all.
He checked all the requirements. He was interested, and I tried to talk to him. We were left alone for some time while our families walked around the market area. That's when he said, "I am in a live-in relationship in the USA. She is from Pakistan. My parents would never agree to it. But if you marry me, they can be off my case and you can shift to the USA. You can have your own life because I never plan to leave her."
I appreciated his honesty, and the idea was tempting. He wasn't my type, so I thought, why not consider it as a marriage of convenience? But of course, I didn't agree to it. We parted, and he came to Delhi again to meet me and try to change my mind. He told his mom that he liked me and was okay with this Rishta. But, I want to be the queen in my man's life, and didn't go ahead with it. And, a 36-year-old Green Card holder, not able to take a stand in life, said a lot about him.
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